Hi, my name is Kelly and I write about being a dad. Let me tell you 
Manuscript is complete. April is reading it for the first time.
Thursday, December 3rd, 2009
Baby Blues
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11 COMMENTS
That adjustment is so incredibly hard
December 4, 2009 at 2:24 am
congrats on your new baby! im sure your wife will handle the blues well.
December 4, 2009 at 2:29 am
Hi Kelly & April ~
Not sure if you'll remember me from Dordt or not, this is Laura (Schippers) Kleinheksel. ('02) I saw your blog recently from someone else's roll, and just want to say CONGRATULATIONS!!!! on the birth of your beautiful son. Seeing this picture of April makes me want to reach out and hug you and tell you it's going to be okay!!! (actually, it's a beautiful photo, even though there are tears!) We just had our second child last January – and have survived 10 months of having two kids 
I had the baby blues big time with our first one, so I understand. it is tough. My heart goes out to you.
I'll probably check back to your blog sometime again if you don't mind, it is very interesting to see your life in Spain! Take care & many blessings to your family.
I agree with Laura, I wish I was there to hug you. Hopefully in a few weeks that can happen. I hope you felt better after a good cry, sometimes that is what you just need to do. Mom
December 4, 2009 at 3:22 am
Oh goodness – my heart goes out to you both!! I had horrible depression after my first baby. Terrible, crippling depression. But one thing I learned is that life doesn't always stay the same even when you are quite certain that it is going to be like this for f.o.r.e.v.e.r. It will change. It will not stay hard forever. You will not feel bad forever. Things get easier. They really, really do. It just takes time. Remembering all that after my second was born really did help. It was almost a mantra for me "It will not always be this hard. It will change. Next week will be different from this. Next month will be different from this. Six months will be like another life than this." The hardest part for me after my second was born was less about adjusting to a new baby and more about helping my first adjust to the new baby. She had a really, really hard time. But things will (and did) get better.
December 4, 2009 at 4:56 am
Oh, April… I will be praying for you. I had a hard time with our firstborn and it wasn't as bad with our second, but it was still tough. I just remember feeling so guilty for feeling so sad when I should be so happy. And we'll be praying for Kelly, too, as it was hard on Jonathan not knowing what to do or how to help. We love you and we pray for you daily!
PS. Actually, the baby blues is one of the reasons we have been waiting to have another baby. I don't mind pregnancy and being sick for 6 months, and I didn't really mind the labor and delivery. It's the first four months of the new baby's life that were the hardest for me and the part I dread the most. It's even harder when you don't have your mom there to help and take care of you. We love you!!
December 4, 2009 at 2:28 pm
Hi Kelly, April and your beautiful little ones.
This is my first time commenting, I am kind of the same but the"opposite" of your family (am from Europe, presently live in the US, my 16 months old daughter was born here (in a birth center), goes to daycare where she has to speak a different language than at home…). But anyway, I wanted to congratulate you on the birth of Teo, and on the beautiful family that you are. Thanks for writing and being so honest about the ups and downs of parenting, being an expat, etc.
I can only imagine how hard it is for all three of you to adjust, but I hope April will feel better soon, as well as Dad and big sister Alleke.
Take care.
I'm still going through baby blues 3 years on. It's a tough battle to go through. I hope your wife pulls through.
December 5, 2009 at 9:29 pm
Ok, i can understand that there are some changes going on in the body that u can't help yourself. But what can be more beautifull that giving birth to a child. That alone should enough to be happy all the time. Take care!
December 8, 2009 at 8:18 pm
It's so exciting, so wonderful…and so hard to be a mom. I was on an emotional roller coaster ride when number 2 came along. With one I was able to hold it together, but having two kiddos rocked my world for a while. I was better about knowing what to do as far as caring for the baby, but I felt extremely inadequate and wishes there were a few more of me around to do everything and give everyone the attention I wanted to give them. Hang in there!
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PaisleyJade said...
oh no – my heart goes out… I remember having the blues and depression with mine.
love and prayers
December 4, 2009 at 1:30 am